When Terrible Situations Tear Everything Apart...

When training for a goal, accountability is important. Those sneaky chocolate bars, that missed workout - that "F**k it whats the point" moment - is all down to you, and your own accountability and sabbotage that we spoke about on our earlier blog post.

But what happens when its NOT down to you? What happens when it's a situation beyond your control? When you have zero control over the events that occur and you are left dumbfounded?

The horrific tragedy in Manchester this week is the mother of all situations to throw anyone off their path, not just those fitness goals, but life in general.  Especially as Manchester is OUR town, OUR City - it's OUR hearts that are broken.... But yet again the world bleeds, as so many hearts before ours have hurt before due to this never ending madness.

So what the hell do we do?  We come together as a city, we show our love and support to one another, offering out our hands, our shoulders and our homes. We grieve for the people we know who were caught up so innocently in a situation that is so despicable, that we cant quite comprehend or allow the full extent to sink in.

We grieve for the people we dont know, because underneath all of the superficial day to day runnings of humanity, there is an invisible cord that links us all together as one and we ALL hurt.  We raise money to support the families, we show that Manchester is buzzing by inking ourselves with pride and we show that we are united as fellow human beings - we send out love and compassion and we carry on, regardless of how uncomfortable it feels.

We wonder whether we are allowed to be angry, upset, hurt, annoyed, numb, we shut it out, we let it in, we want to say a million words that we cannot seem to find, and the ones we can, we worry about whether they are "politically correct" enough to say...

We scroll through social media looking for some form of answer, reading countless opinions and theories, we feel helpless as a society and wonder when it is going to end.... We watch people argue over the wrong things, the right things, the opinionated things, we watch hate begin to spin its web, we see the societal labels come out in force, this makes us more angry yet all the while, deep down there is still a huge feeling of fear. So much fear that we forget about the moment we live in at the present time, too busy in the rabbit holes of everyone elses thoughts to concentrate on our OWN feelings and our OWN emotions.

So how on earth do we expect to get back to the day to day life goals we had before it?

We let that grief in, we FEEL it, we get angry, we have a cry, we tell our loved ones still here how much we care, we process what it means to US - not what it means to everyone else on an internet rant.

We channel it and start to become THANKFUL for everyone we've met in our lives and for everything we have.....

We become GRATEFUL for everyone we may no longer have, because at some point, these beautiful human beings once enriched and touched our lives - even if only for too short a time and NOONE can ever take away those memories held so dear.

We beome HOPEFUL for all of the incredible amazing things that WILL, in the spirit of Manchester, come out of such a terrible event - for the way in which the beautiful survivors have a tale to tell to use for the greater good, even if they dont know it yet.

Most of all, we stick together... we allow ourselves time to process come to terms and when we start to heal, we start to channel our energies into building even greater, stronger things...

We stop procrastinating about the things we could do and we DO them.... because life is short.

We have that conversation we've been putting off, we wear the clothes we were saving, we do things that we want to do and the things that are uncomfortable, because we realise in the wake of all of this - that that's the only way humanity at its most raw potential, begins to grow. 

We put ourselves through it regardless because being in the now, and feeling the pain, the burn and the challenge means we are alive, that we have air in our lungs and a beat in our heart.... Where there is a beat, there is music to be made... Noone can take away the music in your heart. 

We do this because we are thankful to be alive, and to pay tribute to those that are not because they would WANT us to.  That's how we stay accountable, that's where we find strength, whatever the original goal.

As we write this blog post with nothing but a heavy heart and a lump in the throat, we would just like to wish every single person affected by what happened in Manchester, SO MUCH LOVE.

Xx

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